Will You Hold My Hand, Please?

I’m seeking a husband.

But I’ve never had a date. I’m 24.

It’s a little different in my culture, we’re not supposed to date around in order to avoid temptation as we are to enter marriage as virgins.

Can you imagine how difficult it is to be 24 and never have been in a relationship. I am craving male companionship and physical contact, not necessarily sex, but simply holding hands and having someone to hug. Try going that long without that physical human contact, it gets quite lonely.

I have informed my family that I am ready for marriage and they have started ‘the search’. This involves them asking friends and family in our community of any suitable matches. It’s basically old-school match-making. Word spreads and you end up marrying your Gran’s-sisters-husbands-brothers-sons-cousins-friends-uncles-son.

It’s an arranged marriage which isn’t so much arranged. My family are the matchmakers who introduce potentials and we both will meet and chat and decide if we would like to get to know each other, but you do so with a marriage in view (average engagement is around 1-2years). During the time that you ‘date’ you are essentially wedding planing, which may seem odd to those from the Western world.

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To Beat, or Not To Beat

The video of a Caribbean Mother beating her 12 year old daughter has gone viral and is causing an array of emotion and opinions around the world. The 12 year daughter shared sexual photographs with some boy via Facebook and received a whipping with a belt as her mother found out. For some reason her mother recorded the punishment and the 6 minute long video is being shared all over the net.

There are hundreds of sites, blogs and pages where people have shared the video and offered their opinions of outrage or agreement with the actions. There seems to be a 50/50 split between those who condone the behaviour and those who are horrified and call it child abuse and violence.

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My thoughts? I personally agree with her actions. *Cue shocked gasps* Continue reading