I have just read this article:
I think this is complete utter BULLS**T. The article is based on a book called “The monogamy Gap by Eric Anderson”. I have not read the book but it seems to show reasons and justifications for why men cheat and the basic underline of the book states that monogamy is wrong and cannot be fulfilled by men. In my opinion (just would like to mention by the way, that of course, everything on my blog is MY opinion and therefore don’t get your panties or boxers in a twist if you don’t agree with what I say), this idea and notion is quite stupid and people (not just men) need to realise that the blame and responsibility for cheating lies on them!
In the article above, there are three examples of men who have cheated on their wives, who all claimed to really love their wives, but still lost all that because they couldn’t keep their pants zipped. One of the examples, claim that the husband actually felt suicidal after his wife left him, and for some reason I felt no sympathy when reading that. Does that make me a cold-hearted Bitch? Maybe. But my opinions are too strong, and I live by the notion of “you reap what you sow”.
Too harsh? Too black and white? Need to get in touch with reality? Yes? Well guess what?
I dont give a shit.
When people cheat its all “me, me, me” at that point you aren’t thinking about anyone but yourselves. So excuse me when the aftermath comes sooner rather than later and your partners jump on the same band wagon and finally make a decision based on “me, me, me”.
Back to the subject at hand; the article basically outlines that men do love their wives and they don’t want to lose them. So according to the article “men cheat because they do love their partners — they are simply too afraid to take the chance of losing them by expressing a desire for recreational sex with others.”
Now in my opinion that is a stupid excuse. When people (men AND women) get into relationships, you do so knowing that you are CHOOSING to forfeit the right to sleep with other people. When in a relationship you have committed yourself to now include this other persons welfare in your every decision. Sound too much, too demanding? Well thats what a relationship is! Don’t like it? Well don’t apply for relationships, carry on sleeping around! Seriously it is THAT simple! Also if you claim that sex is just sex, well thats great, each to their own and all that. Just go find someone else who also thinks sex can be meaningless and then you can both get into a great relationship where you can both cheat on one another. Simple and fair.
So the article brings me to another question, by claiming that men don’t stop loving their wives when they cheat, therefore implying to women to turn a blind eye – I wonder how much of a blind eye men turn when women cheat?
Oh thats right, they don’t. When a woman cheats majority of the men show her the door whilst giving her one last colourful conversation with words like “slut, slag, whore and hoe” on repeat. Lovely.
I know this posts really seems to be aiming the gun at men; but this goes to BOTH men and women. If you want to cheat, get out of the relationship. If you claim to love your partner but still want to have sex with someone else, be honest with your partner, some people accept this and may even be open to a new world of sexual experiences – each to their own. But if they don’t (majority won’t), you can’t really be surprised.
However when push comes to shove and your partner kicks you out of their lives, stop crying your river and get over it. But you love them you say? Well, you should have thought of that before.
Too little Too late.